Vicky Pattison has said she fell for “broken men” before finding love with her partner Ercan Ramadan.
The former Geordie Shore star has been with TOWIE cast member Ercan, who's 28, since 2019, with the couple regularly posting loved up photos from their home in Essex.
Vicky, 34, has said that she previously ended up in toxic relationships after watching her mother Carol “fighting to make it work” with her father John, who struggled with alcohol addiction in her younger years and received treatment in hospital and rehab as she was growing up.
The star was previously engaged twice – first to Geordie Shore’s Ricci Guarnaccio and later to businessman John Noble – before meeting current partner Ercan.
In an extract of her new book The Secret to Happy, published by The Sun, Vicky writes: “We accept the love we think we deserve. That is what I truly believe when it comes to romantic relationships. Beyond that, you accept the love you’ve observed at home, as a child.
“I knew as a child that something was wrong, and I watched my mam give every inch of herself to a man who was not getting better.
”I just watched as that relationship constantly took from her and drained her… that’s what I thought love was.”
She added: “Subsequently — and this isn’t something I did consciously — my pattern became that I fell for broken men. Almost every time.”
Vicky also adds that one mistake she used to make when dating was to think the men she was involved with had to be as successful as her, but she praised Ercan for still finding his way in life while being secure within himself.
“The big difference between Ercan and the other men I dated is me and my attitude to what I want and need.
“I used to think I needed a man who had his life figured out. Because I was successful professionally, I thought I needed someone who matched that.
"But that doesn’t matter at all. Ercan is younger than me and still working out who he is, just like I was when I was his age.
“I never needed anyone else’s money, but I thought I needed someone who had their own money, career and success so they wouldn’t find me intimidating. But that is bulls**t.
"What I actually need — what we all need — is someone who is secure in who they are.”
Vicky and Ercan recently celebrated three years since their first date, with the star gushing over her boyfriend on Instagram.
Vicky,who recently revealed plans to freeze her eggs,shared a series of photos of the pair from their romance including a cosy snap of the pair on their first date.
She continued: "Happy anniversary @ercan_ram, 3 years since our first date, since this picture was taken and since I fell in love with you…
"Second year in a row we're spending it ill in bed like (see last slide) so instead of a glamorous picture of us all dolled up and having a generally lovely time- here's some of my favourites from this year… and my all time favourite".
Vicky added: "I'm so proud of everything we've achieved together this year- our home, baby milo, our charity work… and all the fun we have too. There's no one else I'd rather share this journey with…"
She ended the caption by telling her beau: "Happy anniversary babe- I hope we're better for NYE to celebrate properly".
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